RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

Hello, hello, hello.  So.....I've been thinking on some rules that I think that I should begin to follow so that I don't get caught with my thighs spread or be walking down the street and accidentally trip and fall on a.....well, you know how that tends to go. SO!  Here are a couple or rules that I've generated for myself to follow as I travel down this lonely and tempestuous road.  Hopefully this will help all you ladies living that struggle life like myself.

RULE #1:
Just because I'm keeping the kitty on lock does NOT mean she needs to go ungroomed!  Personal maintenance is just that PERSONAL maintenance. 

Now there is no need to abstain from a razor, wax, laser, regular trimmings, or whatever just because the dinkle is no longer a resident.  Upkeep is so very important!  Now if you are one that loves your "bush" then by all means, deep condition away, but I prefer neat and non-existent.  And that's MY PREFERENCE!

FYI....Grooming isn't just about the man it's about feeling sexy as a WOman!  How can you know how to be sexy if you never feel sexy.

RULE #2
Don't put yourself in compromising circumstances.....

I tend to fall short of this one often.  My va jayjay tends to have a literal mind of her own.  Fully equipped with emotions and even a sense of humor!  Most of the time she knows exactly what she is doing, but some how or the other she convinces me that it is me that is in control.  Not knowing that she's been releasing pheromones left and right.  She also talks me into have 3 glasses of wine instead of the one I initially agreed on in the car, on the way to the door, and when I sat down on the couch.  So no more dates that end with night caps.....or how about just no more dates period!!!

RULE #3
Don't flirt via social networking/text messages/emails/phone convos...

This is usually where the pot gets to brewing.  This is where all of the ingredients are added and when you finally do meet or come across each other you are either going to simmer together or boil over!  Both are kind of no bueno.  I personally prefer cooking alone.  WAIT!  That didn't come out exactly the way I planned.  But my point is, don't start nothing and it won't be nothing.  I call social networking, social netflirting!  You can be whoever you want to be in those mean streets and a picture is worth 1000 words and usually none of the words are correct.

RULE #4
Find something better to do....

If there is a guy that has your attention you don't have to play hard to get, but you don't have to be easy to find either.  I don't know how men think, but I would like to think that apart of holding anyone's interest is being interesting.  Having something to do, plans, hobbies...something that isn't centered around satisfying a man.  Sometime being in a relationship for so long and then all of a sudden becoming single, we tend to forget who we were.  Being single AND celibate is the perfect time to get all of that back and learn more about yourself.

That brings me to
RULE #5
Find something that you love to do alone...
I think I've mastered this one!  I promise I'm not outside of doing anything alone.  I will go out to eat, to the movies, to the park...etc.  The only thing I haven't mastered doing alone is going to a comedy show.  I mean that has got to be some lonely shit.  I will laugh alone at home.  But everything else, I'm pretty much a loner. 

Rule #6
Do something drastic!....
Now drastic could have a different meaning for different people.  Some people consider drastic changing their nail color or putting some purple weave in their hair....WHATEVER floats your fancy, just make sure that you are doing it for you!  I call this a form of liberation!  I've done so many things in the name of being liberated!  I've cut off all my hair, gotten tattoos, changed up my dress style....and some other things I care not to mention....hehehehehehee!!!  But the point is that it felt good to do FOR ME!  It was like a breath of fresh air.

Rule #7
Denial is no bueno....
Denying that you are hornier than bat shit will not make it go away.  That will only put RULE #2 into action.  Listen, the va jayjay does not like to be ignored!  You must acknowledge her.  You don't have to "physically" acknowledge her should you choose to or not to is not my business...BUT definitely admit your feelings/emotions to yourself.  Nothing like lying to yourself.  You will lie yourself straight into his bed, car, or side of the building.

Well folks!!  These are my rules of engagement for the 2nd installment.  Hopefully I will be able to follow my own rules and lead a successful celibate lifestyle.  I told myself that I was done with men so the next blog may or may not be a story of one of my experiences.



I will check in later!!!